“SECOND CHANCES, MY BACK FOOT?!”

So, snapchat created an unscripted series for its platform called “Second Chance”.  Second Chance, brings emotional exes face to face to explore the breaking point in their relationship for the first time. In this sincere setting, couples seeking closure will also discover heartfelt opportunities for reconciliation.
But what are your thoughts?
Do you believe in second chances?

I’m sure you have heard of the saying, “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me”, especially when it comes to relationships. But when is enough, enough? When you’re dealing with love, it’s easy to let things slide and quickly forgive and forget. 

Deciding whether or not to offer a second chance to your partner truly depends on what he or she did to get in this position in the first place. No judgements here; if you feel whatever he or she did wasn’t serious enough to ruin the foundation of your relationship, it’s worth taking the time to think about it.

But how do you know when you should give your partner a second chance, or when it’s time to officially call it quits? 

Personally, I think it’s easy for me to say to leave and not to stay when I’m not the one in it. I’ve been through some stuff myself so I wouldn’t recommend it in the slightest. There are some offenses that ruin a relationship and there’s no turning back. But then there are other things that a couple can move past. I feel as women we give plenty of chances and we give excuses to justify our partner’s behaviour and overlook them in hope of change. It’ s very sweet and extremely stupid (LOL). 

IF YOU SEE A RED FLAG = RUN 

I strongly believe It’s never enough to stay with someone just because you “love” each other. There has to be more than love. Sure, it’s one of the most important factors in a relationship, but let’s not forget about trust, loyalty, honour, and respect. If love is all that is keeping you two together, but you don’t have those other aspects, it’s not worth giving your partner another shot. If you two have a strong foundation that makes for a happy and healthy relationship, then a second chance may be something you want to consider.

I strongly believe It’s never enough to stay with someone just because you “love” each other. There has to be more than love.

I loved how in second chances episode,  the women pictured above took her peace and happiness back and didn’ t settle for NONSENSE. 

Knowing your worth and what you want and deserve is key. 

Such situations expose not just who the other person is but who you are and how you see, love and value yourself. When people take advantage of us in any way – whether it’s our love, our giving hearts or by having us do endless favors for them – it’s important to pick and choose who we do all of the above for. Everyone doesn’t deserve your love, and everyone definitely doesn’t deserve second chances after he or she has hurt you.

You need to decide who’s worth fighting for, and who’s worth giving a second chance to. Either way, you should protect yourself by going into these situations with caution.

Giving your partner a second chance means hoping that whatever happened in the first place doesn’t happen again, but we gotta be real with ourselves old patterns and behaviors just don’t stop. You both have to actively work on changing the dynamic. If both of you are committed to making things work, then why not try.

Ultimately, the decision to continue your relationship or not is totally up to you, but if you’re having trouble deciding what to do, pray and seek Godly/wise advise.
I wish you peace and happiness in your next steps.
Look out for Second Chance every Friday on Snapchat!

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